FEELINGS, NEEDS, AND WANTS Course
Behaviour stems from our feelings, our needs, and our wants. It is important as a caregivers of young people that we understand how their feelings, needs and wants construct their behaviour.
What you can expect in this course
This course was designed to help parents and provide insights so that they can better understand how to support their children. This can be a challenge for any parent as the child grows to adolescence.
In this course, Bob Wilkie and Shawn O’Grady dive into Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. The work of Abraham Maslow was groundbreaking, and some was based on his work with the Indigenous groups in Southern Alberta. His work changed how society addressed psychological issues and provided a new framework of how to heal and overcome mental health issues.
In sport, there are many new challenges that a young person and their family faces. This means that often the needs can go unfulfilled. This will trigger feelings that change behaviour.
Bob and Shawn will walk participants through the common wants of a young person, and the issues that begin when these wants are not met. It is valuable information that every parent needs to understand in order to help their child navigate the challenges in sport.
LEARNING OBJECTIVES :
- an introduction to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs
- an understanding of the issues that begin to manifest when their child’s needs are unmet
- how to help their children manage their feelings for better outcomes
We will discuss the issues that can occur when our needs and wants go unmet and how they can be life-altering.
Lesson 1 – What are feelings and why they need validating
As humans we have emotions. It is these emotions that can confuse or cause pain. In this lesson Bob and Shawn shed light on what feelings are and why we as humans can struggle to express them.
As children grow and experience life they begin to have feelings they have never felt. This can be scary, frustrating, and confusing. They can struggle to understand why they are having these feelings and how to communicate them effectively.
Parenting is one of life’s greatest challenges and what we think we should do for our children is not always the right thing to do. This lesson will help parents to formulate new ideas of how they can help. Children need to understand why they are feeling the way they are. Not until then can they learn to manage these powerful feelings.
All the evidence that we have indicates that it is reasonable to assume in practically every human being, and certainly in almost every newborn baby, that there is an active will toward health, an impulse towards growth, or towards the actualization.
- Abraham Maslow
Lesson 2 – Needs and teachable moments
The second lesson in the course will discuss the basic needs we have as humans. We introduce Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, part of which was developed while he worked with the local Blackfoot and Siksika tribes in the 1960’s. In order to help teach our children to have their needs met as they go through life, we must first understand our own basic needs.
As we try to help our children grow into adults, their wants can sometimes be unrealistic, or the plan to achieve their wants may be unrealistic. This will cause issues for them.
It is valuable to help them through sharing your own personal experiences. It will increase understanding, it will help them to know how to communicate, and that what they are feeling is okay. Most importantly, it will help them to learn how to have their needs met, which allows for successful independence.