Feelings and Needs








Behaviour stems from our feelings, our needs, and our wants. It is important as caregivers of young people that we understand how their feelings, needs and wants influences their behaviour.

What you can expect in this course

This course was designed to help parents by providing valuable insights so that they can better understand how to support their children. This can be a challenge for any parent as the child grows in to adolescence.

In this course, Bob Wilkie and Shawn O’Grady dive into Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. The work of Abraham Maslow was groundbreaking, and some was based on his work with the Indigenous groups in Southern Alberta. His work changed how society addressed psychological issues and provided a new framework of how to heal and overcome mental health issues.

In sport, there are many new challenges that a young person and their family faces. This means that often the needs can go unfulfilled. This will trigger feelings that change behaviour.

Bob and Shawn will walk participants through the common wants of a young person, and the issues that begin when these wants are not met. It is valuable information that every parent needs to understand in order to help their child navigate the challenges in sport.


  • an introduction to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs
  • an understanding of the issues that begin to manifest when their child’s needs are unmet
  • how to help their child manage their feelings for better outcomes

We will discuss the issues that can occur when our needs and wants go unmet  and how the effects can be life-altering.


Feelings, Needs & Wants - In order to solve problems, we need to be aware of how we are feeling, and then assess our needs and wants to solve our problems.

Lesson 1 – What are feelings and why they need validating

As humans we have emotions. It is these emotions that can cause confusion and pain. In this lesson Bob and Shawn shed light on what feelings are and why we as humans can struggle to express them.

As children grow and experience life they begin to experience feelings they have never felt before. This can be scary, frustrating, and confusing. They can struggle to understand why they are having these feelings and how to communicate them effectively.

Parenting is one of life’s greatest challenges and what we think we should do for our children is not always the right thing to do. This lesson will help parents to formulate new ideas of how they can help. Children need to understand why they are feeling the way they are. Not until then can they learn to manage these powerful feelings.


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All the evidence that we have indicates that it is reasonable to assume in practically every human being, and certainly in almost every newborn baby, that there is an active will toward health, an impulse towards growth, or towards the actualization.
- Abraham Maslow

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Lesson 2 – Needs and teachable moments

The second lesson in the course will discuss the basic needs we  have as humans. We introduce Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, part of which was developed while he worked with the local Blackfoot and Siksika tribes in the 1960’s. In order to help teach our children to have their needs met as they go through life, we must first understand our own basic needs.

As we try to help our children grow into adults, their wants can sometimes be unrealistic, or the plan to achieve their wants may be unrealistic. This will cause issues for them.

It may be valuable to help our children through sharing our own personal experiences. It will increase understanding, it will help them to know how to communicate, and that what they are feeling is okay. Most importantly, it will help them to learn how to have their needs met, which allows for successful independence. 

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Children are educated by what the grown-up is and not by his talk.
- Carl Jung

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Course and Coaching Option


This is a great option. You take the course and then sit with one of our facilitators or counselors and discuss what you learned and we can answer any questions you may have.

Self Learning


This option is if you prefer to go through the content on your own and learn all of the valuable information of how to manage your child’s feelings, needs and wants.

There is no support of IGM facilitators with this option, you only receive access to the online content.